Attitude is Everything – Book Review

Thank you for all the love you showered for the previous post of mine. Sometimes it’s hard to guess what the reader wants but I think sharing stories of wonderful books can never go wrong! So here I am with yet another book review for all of you. Honestly, I did not know how many books I have stocked up until the lockdown.

Well I know its extremely messy. But well, you can always change that!

I am thinking of writing book reviews every weekend. Do comment if you like the sound of it and on which book you would like a review on ๐Ÿ™‚

This time writing a review for the Book called “Attitude is everything” by Jeff Keller.

Change your attitude.. Change your life!

Now the premise of the entire book lies in the title. “Attitude is everything and it can change your life for good or for worse. It just depends on which side you want to choose.” The book contains concepts that are known to us all but unfortunately, most of us tend to ignore them, thus feeling unsatisfied in whatever we do.

In this book, the author explains his journey of personal realization that he can change his life by changing his attitude. It shows his journey from being an unsatisfied lawyer to an amazing motivational speaker. The book is broadly divided into three parts – THINK, SPEAK, and ACT which I would explain further. Also, this book has some of the most amazing quotes.

Success is a state of Mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success Dr. Joyce Brothers

It is a small book with 12 Lessons. Sharing few very interesting concepts mentioned by the author that each one of us can try in our lives ๐Ÿ™‚

PS: All rights reserved by the Author “Jeff Keller” – This is just a review and few helping points for the readers!

PART 1 – Success Begins in the Mind

  1. Comparison of attitude to a Window to the world
    • Consider a child who is learning to walk. The child stumbles and falls down multiple times but does not quit. He just smiles, gets up, and tries again. But as we grow up, our clean window as a child is smeared by criticisms, rejections, self-doubt, and disappointments. It is important that we clean our window every now and then to see the magnificent opportunities that life has to offer
  2. Each one of us is a Human Magnet
    • A famous writer once said – “Whether you think you can – or think you can’t – you’re right“. This beautiful quote by Henry Ford has so much depth! Jeff emphasizes the need to think positive. But it’s important to continue thinking positive. You would attract positivity if you think and speak positively every day
  3. Picturing Success
    • The author expresses the need to visualize your success to become successful. You have control over the picture that occupies your mind. You must have faced criticisms in your life, but it’s all about keeping a positive outlook and choosing to learn and grow from the errors made rather than sitting and feeling worthless
  4. Make a commitment
    • The author refers to a book entitled ” Ultimate Secret to Getting Absolutely Everything you want, by Mike Hernacki”. According to Mike, the key o getting what you want is “WILLINGNESS to do whatever it takes” to accomplish your objective. (PS: Nothing unethical or Illegal). Jeff urges the readers to think if we would take that leap and do everything it takes to become successful. As the famous saying goes: Where there is a WILL there is a WAY!
  5. Turning Problems into Opportunities
    • The author mentions how adversity gives us an opportunity to introspect and rise like a phoenix from its ashes. Adversity helps us to be grateful and encourages us to make changes and take action. As they say – Failures and Mistakes are the Best Teachers. Now, this is a reference to point number 2 – Always think Positive

PART 2 – WATCH YOUR WORDS

  1. Your words Blaze a Trail
    • There is a dominos effect to our thoughts. You speak what you think. The more you say something strengthens your belief in it. Now this belief determines our actions and leads us to our results. Now, if we start thinking positively, we would start talking positively which would reinforce our faiths in ourselves and our achievements leading us to take the best actions for us and helping us to reap success.
  2. How are you?
    • Now, this is the most interesting topic. A simple question can determine your thoughts. The responses to this question can be negative, mediocre, or positive. Replying to this simple question positively can brighten up not just yours but someone else’s mood as well
  3. Stop Complaining
    • The author says that one should not complain about anything and everything under the sky regularly. The more you complain, the more it reinforces your thoughts and it diverts you from constructive actions you could be taking to improve your situation/life. No one can sit back and ignore their problems in life. However, one can focus his/her attention to solve the problems instead of cribbing over it

PART 3 – HEAVENS HELPS THOSE WHO ACT

  1. Associate with Positive People
    • It is rightly said that ” We become a part of what we are around“. The more time you spend with a person, the more likely you would be affected by how he/she thinks. If you are surrounded by Positive people, you would start thinking positively yourself and they will help lift you up the ladder of success. But if you hang out with people who think negatively and always crib – you would end up doing the same. So one must CHOOSE HIS FRIENDS WISELY ๐Ÿ™‚
  2. Confront your fears and grow
    • To achieve success and grow to your potentials it is imperative to step out of one’s comfort zone. If you run away from your fears it will only bring you frustration and unhappiness. Life does not reward those who refuse to expose themselves to challenges. So for winning, it is important to take actions despite the fear
  3. Get out there and Fail
    • Now referring to the first point the author mentioned one must not give up even after failing multiple times. One must be persistent in achieving their goals and becoming successful. If you are not getting success then you must ask yourself the right questions like “Am I truly committed”, or “Do I have too many discouraging influences?”, or “Am I preparing to succeed”, or “Am I truly willing to fail” etc. If you make your business to learn from every defeat and stay focussed on the end result, then you will eventually succeed
  4. Networking that Gets Results
    • Quoting Zig Zagler “You can get everything in life you want if you’ll just help enough other people get what they want“. The author shares the importance of networking in day to day life in this chapter. He divides the concept into 4 categories namely – Attitude and Action, Referrals, Communication and Follow Up

He concludes by asking the readers to take Control of their lives and asks us to apply these principles in our lives to develop our incredible potential and succeed in our lives.

According to me, this book is a tiny guide to help you scratch through those basic concepts that all of us are aware of but hardly follow. This book is a must read and all the said principles can be followed by each one of us to succeed in our lives ๐Ÿ™‚

Few Parting Notes: You cannot expect tremendous changes in a day. You will still face multiple challenges and your faith in yourself will be tested. It is all about how you face those challenges and how you keep your ATTITUDE in check.

So that’s it from my side for today. STAY POSITIVE and BE AMAZING!

Being my Dad’s Daughter

Was just going through my social media accounts and I realized that I have never written anything about my Dad. Maybe because he does not have Social Media account (He has one now – but he rarely accesses it) or maybe I know I wont do justice in penning down my emotions for him. Today I want to take this opportunity to express my unconditional love for my Dad ๐Ÿ™‚

Quoting someone – A Father is a son’s first HERO and a daughter’s first LOVE

Penning down a small letter to my Dad just to say how much I love him!

Dad, there have been multiple times, I have thought of writing something for you, but its never easy. Words fail me every time I start to portray you on a piece of paper. I don’t know how many times I have told you that I love you so much, but seems like its never enough! Dad, you are my backbone, my strength, my safety net, my punching bag, my first love and my biggest weakness.

You have always believed in me. I have seen you work hard to ensure that all of us at home are happy. You made me feel like a princess even during your most difficult times. You did everything to ensure that we get the best of education so that we can stand on our feet and gave us the courage to fight against all the odds.

When i was a child, I know I have troubled you a lot with all my unnecessary demands but you never said “NO” to anything. You made the right decisions for me when i was confused and always taught me to believe in myself.

There is not even a single day when I don’t think about you. I love the excitement in your voice whenever we speak on phone or do a video chat! You are a man of few words and I am extremely lucky to be your Daughter.

I LOVE YOU TO THE UNIVERSE FARTHEST TO EARTH AND BACK!!

That’s my Dad. Ain’t he cute ๐Ÿ™‚

PS: Dad kept a lockdown beard and he had to shave it off because he is scared of me ๐Ÿ˜›

Happy Father’s day Daddy and to all the Dad’s who do everything in their power and above to ensure their Kids get the best!

IKIGAI – The Reason of Being – Review

Previously, on my blog “What to do when you are struck with Unexpected!” I shared few ideas on how you can make the best out of the time you have during this dreaded lockdown period. I did incorporate many of the ideas myself and honestly it feels amazing to know that there is so much to do other than just sitting with a laptop and working or trying to spend time by watching a series or two!

One of the most amazing idea was : Read, read, and write. This has become one of my favourites apart from honing my cooking skills ๐Ÿ™‚

So when the lockdown began, I was drowning myself with work. Since i am a certified Workaholic, I found ways to stay busy with office work so that i can spend my time “NOT” thinking about the stupid Virus or the horrible lockdown that has been bestowed on each one of us. It was after a week or two I realized how messed up my mind was and I should seriously get a life! This is when I started looking out for options that would restore my work-life balance!

So, during this time, the first book I read was called “IKIGAI” (Authors: Hector GarciaAlbert Liebermann) Now this is one of those books which will definitely make you introspect the decisions you have made in your life.

IKIGAI is a Japanese word which if put in layman terms means the reason you wake up in the morning. When we live with Ikigai, we have clarity of our purpose and what contribution we want to make in the world. We have more energy to get up in the morning and fulfill our goals. It helps us to be less distracted by the thoughts of other people and gives us the courage to make a difference in this world.

The book covered multiple topics such as

  • Art of staying young while growing old
  • How little things can add up to a long and happy life
  • How to live longer and better by finding your purpose in life
  • How to turn your work and free time into opportunities to grow
  • Words of wisdom from some of the longest living people and getting to know what they eat and drink
  • Most importantly – How to face life’s challenges without stress and worry

ADVICE 1 : The only thing that really exists and what you can control is your present. One should not dwell on the past and about the future but should appreciate the little things of life in the present. Everything in this world is temporary and one should not be worried about it, but should make the best out of their time on this wonderful planet and leave an imprint behind for other’s to remember your good deeds

ADVICE 2: Be resilient. Resilience is the ability to deal with setbacks and to overcome it positively. You can do this by appreciating the beauty of imperfections around you, in Japanese this is called: wabi-sabi. 

ichi-go iche-e” This beautiful Japanese phrase translates as “This moment exists only now and won’t come again”

ADVICE 3: You must work towards leading a healthy lifestyle. You can achieve this by following some very simple rules:

  • Stay physically active: Walking for just 20 minutes can help you stay fit and active. One can use stairs instead of using an elevator ๐Ÿ™‚
  • Nutritional Diet : It is said that “You are what you eat”. It is very important to have nutritious food to stay healthy. Eating plant based food and limiting refined sugar can help a lot
  • Sufficient rest and sleep is a must for the body to recover and for relaxing your mind and muscles
  • Limiting stress: In today’s fast paced life it becomes imperative that we try to limit our stress and that too consciously. Stress always impacts life negatively. Meditation is a very good means to reduce stress
  • Strengthening you relationships: Human being is a social animal and requires company. One should connect with family, friends etc every now and then and should confide in their confidant every now and then when required
  • Staying mentally strong: One should exercise not just physically but mentally as well. You can try some brain training games to keep yourself mentally fit
  • Connect with the Nature, smile and be grateful for this life ๐Ÿ™‚

Now all said and done, this book is a must read. The book stressed more about healthy lifestyle, staying active and living in present. Others may have a different opinion but I think the book does not help you find your Ikigai but does get you thinking of what you are doing and are you happy doing it.

Few parting notes: Ikigai is doing something that you love and are good at. It helps you to get up every day and be grateful for the wonderful life. I love helping people out, be it professionally or personally. It keeps me motivated and I believe that’s my IKIGAI.

What is yours? ๐Ÿ™‚

Picturesque Quotes and Thoughts!

It is rightly said that your emotions bring out the best writer in you! People jot down their thoughts mostly when they are sad/upset/happy/shocked, and the list of emotions goes on!

Life is a roller coaster and emotions are a part and parcel of this journey ๐Ÿ˜Š We will surely talk about this in one of my upcoming Blogs. But for today, sharing my personal quotes against few amazing pics clicked by my dear friend Tom Mathews.

Do follow Tom’s Blog : https://tommathews27.wordpress.com/

PS: All the below quotes are NNยฎ

That’s all for today folks. But we will surely collaborate again with more amazing photography and quotes ๐Ÿ™‚

For now, Stay Safe and Healthy! And most of all stay Creative!

What to do when you are struck with Unexpected!

The foremost rule of writing a blog is to write down the teeniest idea you come across. The more you delay – the so called bubble of idea will POP into the cloud of non existence. Encountered it today – so thought to put it as a disclaimer ๐Ÿ™‚ You’re welcome!

Recently I have been going through many fitness blogs, vlogs etc, where everyone talks about getting – FAT to FAB. Well, my story is a little different. It started from FIT to FAT and then FAB. Well the twist behind the story is that I am somewhere between the FAT and FAB. But I assure you, I am mentally stupendously FAB ๐Ÿ˜Š. But that is the story for another day โ€“ or maybe till the day I achieve the societal FAB position. ๐Ÿ˜›

Today lets talk about how you can utilize this โ€œNewly found free timeโ€ to do something productive.

We are currently facing a global Pandemic and have been forced to stay home so that we can stay safe from this invisible monster. Many of us are working from home #WFH, few of us have lost their jobs. Overall, this is a time of crisis, so support each other emotionally by maintaining physical distance.

PS: I encourage you to stay indoors and Corona Beer has nothing to do with the Coronavirus!

How is it that you can keep yourself motivated during these depressing times? Well, for starters โ€“ I started writing my blog again so that I can feel alive and inspire others. There are multiple other ways you can use your time to do something meaningful. Lets look at few famous categories that you may find interesting

  • Learning a new Language
Credits : Warner Bros. Pictures

Many among us, including me, have wanted to learn a new language โ€“ it can be a verbal or a computer language. But when push comes to shove, we generally back due to lack of time at hand. No excuse now folks! Download those applications and watch those videos to help you learn something new.

  • Reconnecting with your family and friends

We all have friends and family who stay far away from us. This is the perfect time to strengthen your bonds. Its these people who will remain by your side in your thick and thins. But that does not mean that you call up your ex-flame to reignite your love story ๐Ÿ˜›

  • Hone your Skill Set

Well, to be honest, all of us are self-proclaimed experts in everything. โ€œI know everythingโ€ is a myth โ€“ knowledge evolves every second. The best you can do is follow its path and keep growing ๐Ÿ˜Š

  • Have more Cheat Meals
Credits – Pixar

The current pandemic has made us so self-reliant that we no longer crave for junk food anymore โ€“ because we can now make it in our own kitchens! Trust me, I have been able to recreate some of the most delicious recipes at home which I never had imagined (Do comment if you want me to share few of my recipes)

  • Do not skip your Work-Out

This is for all the lazy bums. Lockdown or no lockdown, people who wish to skip work-out will do as they like (I was one among them). But to stay healthy and release some endorphins you must not skip your work out. Just walk in your room post every meal you have, during your calls, while munching your favourite snack or listening to music. Increase your active time, and you will see the change ๐Ÿ˜Š

  • Pamper yourself

How many times have you thought to just lie down with a book in your hand, or apply a face mask? Forever, right? Now is the time to look after and pamper yourself like never-before.

  • Let your creative juices flow

You must possess many inherent qualities โ€“ some of you may be dancers, some singers, some painters โ€“ you know where I am going right? Dive in and explore yourself again. Let go of your inhibition and do what you used to love when you were young!

  • Read, read, and write

Reading is the best way to increase mental stimulation and improve your memory. Donโ€™t believe me? Just ask Google baba ๐Ÿ˜Š. When this is combined with writing, it can bring wonders in your life. Simply writing your thoughts down can help you understand your feelings clearly. Reading and penning your thoughts can help you fight the struggle against Stress, anxiety, depression etc.

SO that covers my personal favourites. Do try to incorporate a few in your life โ€“ I am sure it would help you grow both personally and professionally ๐Ÿ˜Š

So thatโ€™s me for today. See you tomorrow till then stay safe, healthy and most of all stay Creative!

Expressing Gratitude

Day 1 (Yesterday was Day 0 โ€“ if you get what I mean!)

Now, why do people refer to the day they start doing something like Day 0 โ€“ something to ponder about. But let’s keep this for another day ๐Ÿ˜Š

I published my thoughts yesterday and received immense love and support from many including my family friends. Words cannot decipher my gratitude to each one of you. It did boost my confidence and has given me the inspiration to write again. I would surely devote time to pen down my thoughts in a small or large form of text!

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When I started this blog of mine, I dint know what I would write โ€“ I just penned down my thoughts like every other individual. I wrote about a few funny incidents, stories, quotations, and personal recovery from my leg fracture. Every word I wrote was from the heart without a mix of extra masala to make it extra appealing. Maybe that is why I named my blog: Flash across my mind

And yesterday when I again sat to write down, I was wondering about what should I write next โ€“ should I convert my blog to a foodie blog or should I write about facts and myths or maybe about something else that might interest people. But then I had a flash across my mind and I suddenly knew what I should write ๐Ÿ˜Š

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So here I proudly present you with โ€œFLASH ACROSS THE MINDโ€- A blog about everything. I will continue writing about my experiences, advice, funny moments, maybe a few recipes I make now and then. I will also be creating my own set of interesting quotations. I hope to receive love from each one of you!

Do spread the word. Most of all – Stay Safe, stay healthy, and stay creative!!

Past, Present and Future

It’s been a while since I wrote something. Last day I read my sister’s blog and was pushed in a turmoil of thoughts of why I don’t write anything anymore. I used to be good at this, but now it seems that everything was a myth.

I suddenly felt a jolt of despair, of not being able to pen down what I feel and the agony of not being able to create something meaningful. It felt that I was having a writer’s block and my thoughts and imagination had stopped flowing in! This made me think about what I have done in my past, what I am doing currently and will this remain as my future too?

I had to somehow change this. I started asking myself the most difficult question – what do I want with my life. I had many answers to justify myself for not writing anything. I was on a successful path of my career, I am happily married, I am busy with my life. But does that mean I should withhold the creative side of me?

Somehow I felt I did few wrongs in my past and I don’t want to be that person who has nothing creative to be proud about in future. I decided I dint wanna be just satisfied with who I am and I want more. I want to have a wonderful future, where I can proudly say that I am capable of much more than just a regular life.

There might be many of me around the world who feel that it’s enough to be normal and it’s enough to be just satisfied with whatever life throws at you. I say – NO. From here onwards I will try to bring changes in my present for a wonderful future so that I don’t have to regret my past like I am right now. I hope to inspire few of “ME” out there as well.

Life is short and it’s sad that we settle down for small things. Everyone of us is meant to soare high in the sky and leave an imprint behind.

Take care, stay safe and most of all stay creative!

The feeling.. is it wrong?

There are times when you love to do things to make someone happy and instead of bringing happiness you make them angry. Is it wrong to think of someone’s happiness. Is it wrong to go that further mile to bring a smile on someone’s face.

There are times when you feel like you are troubling people around you. You feel that people who are close to you are suffering seeing you suffer. Is it wrong to feel this way. Is it wrong to try to not to make them suffer? 
There are times when you are sad about something. Is it necessary to fake happiness when you cannot? Is it important to laugh and cry from within.

There are times when you break down and cry aloud. Is it wrong to show your feelings? Is it wrong to express what you feel at that moment? Is it wrong to be sensitive?

There are many times everyone of us has felt this feeling that “IS IT WRONG that you are doing?”

It’s difficult to answer – even I am searching for the right answer. I don’t know whether it is right or wrong. But I know this the one who really loves and understands you will surely understand what you feel.